EPISODE 3: How many times have you called it "keeping the peace" when you were really just staying silent? How many times have you questioned your own values instead of someone else's disrespect?
In Episode 3 of The Nurtured Queen Podcast, Mi'Esha Fletcher gets into the difference between values and standards — and why most of us don't actually have a patience problem. We have a standards problem.
Including a story from early in her corporate career where a supervisor told her to "learn to stay in a woman's place and better protect male egos" — and the way staying silent in that moment started the real damage.
IN THIS EPISODE
Why "keeping the peace" is actually self-silencing
Values vs. Standards vs. Boundaries — the practical difference
The corporate story that taught Mi'Esha the hard lesson •A conditioning check — what have you been taught about being a "good woman"?
The Standards Upgrade Framework — four steps to turn values into standards
The alignment audit you can run this week
SOURCES AND REFERENCES
Jack, D. C. (1991). Silencing the self: Women and depression. Harvard University Press.
Jack, D. C., & Dill, D. (1992). The Silencing the Self Scale: Schemas of intimacy associated with depression in women. Psychology of Women Quarterly, 16(1), 97–106.
RESOURCES
💜 If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship: National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788 · loveisrespect.org
Download the free Your Standards Determine Your Life Worksheet
The Nurtured Queen: What Toxic Love Cost Me and What Healing Restored — Mi'Esha's debut memoir, coming October 29.
The Nurtured Queen Podcast is for women rebuilding themselves after loving the wrong people, places, and patterns. New episodes drop every Thursday.
